By Angela Reinhardt
My husband just wrapped-up a production of Greater Tuna, an affectionate but satirical play that comments on small-town Southern life. In one funeral scene, two characters look over the dead body of a beloved judge.
“Well don’t you think he looks nice?” Pearl asks. “I think he makes a lovely looking corpse, don’t you?”
After some contemplation and close examination of the body, Vera throws a wrench into unspoken Southern funeral etiquette.
“One dead body just looks like another,” Vera says. “They look dead. And still.” (dramatic pause) “And waxy.”
Anyone who has been to a funeral in a Southern town has heard – or has said themselves - things like, “He looks so natural, doesn’t he? So peaceful.” Or “Didn’t they do her makeup well? It looks just like her.”
With Halloween a few days away, death and the way we deal with the dead seemed an appropriately macabre topic. There’s no doubt we’ve been creative over the eons, engaging in everything from mummification, to Tibetan sky burials, cryonization, cremation, Viking ship burials, tree burials, Towers of Silence (Zoroastrians see the dead as unclean, and expose them to the elements until bodies are cleaned, then they put the bones in lye to dissolve), and the latest development in taking care of or disposing of a body – liquefaction.
My husband and I were talking about the intriguing tendency to comment on the appearance of a corpse in the South, where no one dies but everyone “passes away,” and our conversation shifted to caskets and burial vaults. We reminisced about a family friend who was a grave digger, and who also (poetically) built and sold pine caskets, one of which he was buried in when he “passed.” My husband, who also wants to be buried in a pine box because burial vaults “rob you of returning to the earth” through decomposition, had a professor who blamed widespread use of burial vaults on lobbyists. Apparently in Georgia vaults are not required by law, but most cemeteries do require them for “perpetual maintenance of grounds.” People can be buried on their own land with a permit in whatever kind of casket or box they please, and can “go green” and not use a casket at all. Family of the deceased also don’t have to buy caskets from a funeral home, and the funeral homes have to use whatever casket you want.
The thing I like so much about Southerners and their relationship with death is there is a kind of humor and closeness with it that was clearly seen in a Southern Living interview with etiquette experts and authors of Being Dead Is No Excuse, a ladies’ guide to hosting the perfect Southern funeral. The authors highlight a few staples of a Southern funeral – we like big funerals and love to attend them. The authors take issue with long obituaries, eulogies (“where people talk about how loyal the fanny pincher was”), paper products at receptions, and themed weddings that include things like camouflage coffins or carrying uncle John to the graveyard in a pickup truck. There’s also a definitive funeral reception cuisine, they say, where stuffed eggs and green bean casserole are okay, but ribs are absolutely not.
“Nobody dies better than a Southerner.”
My husband likes to joke that when his father died it was during a brief period in his life that he had a mustache. The scene is hilarious. There he lay, in his casket, with a mustache that looked awkward and out of place. When I worked at a photo lab in high school I processed several rolls of deceased people in their casket. It’s interesting that outside of the U.S. open casket funerals are apparently a horrifying and unusual prospect.
Some of our traditions are dying out, like sitting up with the dead, but with the plethora of new and old traditions still going strong, death has options - we can go out open-casket style or be picked apart by birds in the Tibetan Sky Burial.
We’re all going to die in this body, but there’s some comfort knowing none of us have the “right” way to go out figured out.
You’d have to be blind not to notice there is more construction in town now than there has been in a long time. Not only are new homes being built – developers for two massive residential/mix-use projects seek to break ground by the end of the year - but commercial construction is also on the rise, as well as several new business licenses issued recently at existing buildings.
Usually around Christmas, during the height of the shopping season, we feel it’s our duty to remind people to shop local. This year we’re reminding people a little before Halloween, the unofficial beginning of the holiday season. The city of Jasper has issued numerous new licenses in the last few months, including some unique businesses like Angry Mama’s Auction Co. and Escape and Evade, a family fun center with escape rooms, laser tag, a rage room and virtual reality, both of which could draw people from surrounding counties.
We’ve got new restaurants, new catering companies, a new folk school and gun range, and new retail and service businesses that need us to patronize them – along with all the existing businesses, artisans and craftspeople in town.
Not supporting a local business is like not going to see an elderly family member for years, and before you get around to it – even though you had every intention of visiting – they pass away. If we don’t support our businesses they pass away, too.
When Toys ‘R Us went bankrupt this year, The Gainesville Sun editorialized that it wasn’t until they announced bankruptcy that people went to the store in town to shop. One employee said if they would have been that busy in the months leading up to bankruptcy, they wouldn’t have had to go out of business.
That’s an example of a big chain being killed by the online giants like Amazon. While locally-owned, independent businesses are a huge part of what gives a community its character, it’s also beneficial to a community to support local chain stores because those tax dollars stay in the county.
Still, even though Amazon can save consumers a few dollars on some purchases and Walmart is convenient “one-stop” shopping, a community that has nothing but chains and box stores and truckloads of shipments from Amazon isn’t interesting. We doubt anyone has ever said, “Hey, let’s travel a few hours to so-and-so-town and hang out at all day because their big box stores are out of this world.”
Granted, some businesses have closed here because they weren’t the right fit for this market – we can think of a few that obviously didn’t have the base to support them and went under quickly. And while some items or services simply aren’t available here, forcing a trip out of town, we suspect there are a ton of things offered locally people don’t realize.
Shopping local not only supports our tax base, but it creates jobs, creates community, allows customers to develop a relationship with the shop owner and purchase unique items and it gives a town its own special vibe.
If you want to have cool things in town, you must use the cool things in town - regularly.
In his 2008 TED Talk on play, Dr. Stuart Brown makes the astute, but widely ignored, point that “the opposite of play is not work, it’s depression.”
In Brown’s books and the works of a number of researchers, the benefits of play don’t end with simple fun, they begin there.
A growing body of work shows that playing (whether it’s board games or rock climbing) leads to improvements in most every aspect of a person’s life and include:
• Reducing stress;
• Speeding up learning;
• Enhancing productivity;
• Creating or strengthening social bonds
• Improving communication skills
The recognized value of play is nothing new. Ecclesiastes 3 makes clear there has always been “a time to laugh” and “a time to dance” along with time for work and being serious.
This balance seems lost in a modern America trending ever more serious - too consumed with work and money and status and constantly stressed to the max. You can see it everywhere with the “I’m so busy” crowd always itching for a fight, but not for a chuckle – unless it’s a sour, mean joke at someone’s expense.
The research points out that humans are hard-wired for play throughout their lifetime. It’s not only kids who need to cut loose. In some of the recent articles that will pop up in a multitude of Google results by searching play, whether it’s figuring out how to catch larger or more fish, hang-gliding or re-arranging your stamp collection, you are not wasting time – unless you choose play over showing up for work.
In Dr. Brown’s simple explanation, play is essentially problem solving and is a transferable skill. Figure out how to better play a guitar solo or grow bigger tomatoes and you will fare better the next time you face a roadblock at work.
An article by Michael Forman at wanderlust.com discussed how adults who don’t play get locked into a set-in-stone type mentality. “Adults get very set on who they are and the types of activities that we do and do not like,” Forman wrote.
Play in all forms keeps a mind flexible. Consider how many of our most divisive national issues come down to large segments of the people who are absolutely set in their ways to the extent they aren’t open to even hearing another point of view – a lack of play leads to lack of interest in exploring new ideas or activities. And besides these people are no fun to be around.
Dr. Brown goes one step further noting there may be a link with mass killers who grew up being deprived of play and the inability to control violent impulses. He cited “rough and tumble” play and sports as means of establishing boundaries of what level of aggression is acceptable.
An article in the Washington Post, “Why it’s good for grown ups to play,” leaned heavily on the stress reduction. Fully concentrating on hitting the basketball shot or finding the right color for your art project let’s you get outside the daily grind of problems and may lead to looking at some nagging issue at work or home with a new perspective.
Researchers in the referenced materials often concluded that in the bigger scheme, having some element of regular play leads to more satisfaction with your life and that leads to better overall well-being and that lead back around to real health benefits and a longer life expectancy due to lower stress.
Dr. Brown defines play as most anything done for fun with no specific work purpose which could be as simple as jumping up-and-down, “How we play is as unique to an individual as a fingerprint” and could mean collecting stamps, tossing a football, reading a book or climbing Mount Everest, he states.
So, do yourself a favor if you are the nose-to-the-grindstone 24/7 type, lighten up/chill out/relax; maybe take up a new hobby or just goof off in the backyard. If you are always angry or busy, maybe it’s time to have some fun.
Your increased productivity and better health will more than offset the time spent playing.
If you tried going from downtown to say Kroger or Dairy Queen over the past weekend you likely encountered some pretty heavy traffic with visitors to our Marble Festival. And the next two weekends with the Apple Festival in Ellijay will be similarly wretched up and down Hwy. 515. This is what Atlanta traffic is like all the time. And it's not pretty.
In October with north Georgia festivals, Pickens County sees tremendous traffic flow from people trying to get away from the city for the weekend. They leave their crowded neighborhoods to trek north for open space, devoid of traffic and the anxiety that comes with it. Or so they think. If you noticed Hwy. 515 last weekend you saw they just brought their traffic north with them.
Atlanta ranks among the most congested cities in the world, according to a recent report by transportation analytics firm INRIX. That’s in the world, not just the United States. According to INRIX's 2016 global traffic scoreboard, Atlanta ranked eighth in the world for congestion with the average commuter spending 70.8 hours in traffic each year. The only ones who benefit from that much time spent in our cars are podcast producers and oil companies.
Nationally, Georgia's metro area came in fourth and just last year Atlanta was No. 11 on the global list of most congested cities. While Bangkok, Thailand is the most congested city, five American cities rounded out the top 10 in the world, with Los Angeles, leading the pack.
According to INRIX the top 10 are: Los Angeles with the average commuter spending 104 hours of their life annually stuck in cars; Moscow at 91.4; New York, 89.4; San Francisco, 82.6; Bogota, Columbia, 79.8; Sao Paulo, Brazil, 77.2; London, 73.4; Atlanta, 70.8; Paris, 65.3; and Miami and 64.8 hours.
With Atlantans spending 70 peak hours in congestion, the cost to each driver is $2,212. But the city loses out to the tune of $7.1 billion from lost productivity with workers sitting in traffic. That's a lot of money.
Economic opportunities in Atlanta come at a price and often seem like a double-edge sword - we love the lifestyle offered by the expanding metro and how easy it is to get to the Fox Theatre for a show or Laughing Skull lounge for some comedy, but when we're stopped in traffic for hours on a Friday evening, it begs to be asked, is it worth it?
For all the opportunity Atlanta and the metro area afford in terms of business, jobs, and entertainment, we hope the sprawl stops in Cherokee County. But we aren't holding our breath.
Rest assured, private automobile traffic is not going away anytime soon. While it's still largely kept at bay here in Pickens County, due to our mileage from Atlanta, the growth already coming to north Cherokee County in places like Ball Ground, will eventually spill over here.
The folks down in Canton who spend exorbitant amounts of time on Hwy. 20 moving from the interstate to their cookie-cutter subdivisions will one day recognize they could just as easily drive another 20 miles north and reach the tranquility of Pickens County.
Reports say some 70,000 people moved into Atlanta last year alone. We should enjoy our mostly traffic-free peace for as long as we can -- sooner or later they will find us and our wide-open spaces.
As readers may know, the city of Jasper has acknowledged they are losing substantial money with their garbage service and are considering changes, including scrapping the program altogether.
Not only is this NOT unique to our small town, it’s a classic example of a growing worldwide problem: what are we going to do with all those shipping boxes, plastic bottles, food scraps and old clothing piling up at astonishing rates?
Consider the size of the garbage mound:
• Americans trash seven pounds of material per person every single day—that’s 2,555 pounds of material per American every year, according to a study by Columbia University. Another study by the World Bank had a much smaller figure, saying that the average American only produces 2.6 pounds of garbage a day.
• The same World Bank study found a staggering 90 percent of all raw materials extracted in the U.S. are ultimately dumped into landfills or burned in incinerators.
• Packaging is the single largest component entering the waste stream, so most of what we throw away was designed from the start to have a lifespan lasting only until a product enters a customer’s home.
Often anything related to garbage, recycling and waste immediately gets brushed off as an environmental issue. “Oh, those wacky Greens wanting me to help the polar bears.”
But the business community and municipalities have recognized the conundrum of finding somewhere to put all that garbage is a tangible problem. As the Jasper council and garbage service customers now see firsthand, garbage is only out of sight, out of mind if you are willing to spend deeply out of pocket.
The World Bank study “What a Waste: A Global Review of Solid Waste Management” noted that the amount of waste is directly tied to the amount of commerce. The more stuff people buy, the more packaging, wrapping, and older products they discard.
The report cautioned this is a true threat to the sustained consumer economy.
At a much more local level, the World Bank report cited waste handling as one of the highest budget items for municipalities and also the most common source of local pollution. For Jasper, yes, it is a high dollar item and, yes, the garbage that doesn’t make it to the dump pollutes our roadsides, parks and natural areas.
Locally and personally, there are several things that would make a dent in the problem, which can be summed up with the saying, “reduce, reuse, recycle.”
• Food waste is the largest component that ends up in the landfill (after recyclables are taken out). In America, we buy a lot of food only to let it sit in the fridge until it goes bad and then throw it away un-opened (some estimates are more than 30 percent of all food produced is thrown away). Leftovers may be a thing of the past as well, but they shouldn’t be. For your own financial health tackle this in your own fridge/grocery cart.
• Plastic bags constitute a sizeable waste problem. Simply quit using them and encourage retailers to follow the chain store Kroger’s lead and begin work to phase them out. In England a small mandated plastic bag charge cut their usage by 80 percent.
• Consider any time you purchase or use a one-time use item, you are quickly adding to the garbage problem. Reuseable plastic/metal bottles and coffee mugs are one easy place to start. The waste and cost of buying bottled water to drink in your home, when the tap water here is just as safe is the pinnacle of poor, short-term thinking.
• Recycle – Pickens County operates two very convenient stations, one on Camp Road; one on Cove Road.
While the Jasper City Council wants to square their budget for garbage service, we encourage them to think locally to be part of a solution for a global problem.